I just read an article on facebook, apparently written by a Malaysian who was seated next to a fat person on a flight. The author was repulsed at first sight, but grew to realize the fat woman was a beautiful lady because 'her personality was beautiful.'
Hopefully [this] links to the post on Facebook.
My first reaction was to roll my eyes. I don't know what it is with people who automatically feel disgusted by fat people and treat them worse than they would an average-sized person, just because they don't look the way you think they should. But anyway, I'm not here to complain about the author. But holy shit, the comments are filled with such contempt and self-righteousness that I feel like tearing my hair out!
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"the fact that she is funny has nothing to do with the need to lose weight. fat people eat too much, consume too much of the earth's resources. I will love her, hug her and be friends with her. BUT she still need to lose weight."
What the fuck is wrong with you? Consuming too much of Earth's resources? Some of the biggest eaters I know are skinny guys; weight doesn't always directly relate to how much you eat. Anyway, how much more can fat people eat that they are dangerously depleting the earth's resources? /eyeroll
At best, it's a pitifully ignorant excuse to pick on fat people. And wow, you will love her and hug her and be friends with her? You must be such an forgiving and accepting person! Here, have 10 pats on the back for your awesomeness!
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"I really hate it when people just get upsets when people is telling a them to lose weight, they are merely stating a fact. It's just like a person telling another person to stop smoking."
You know why people get upset when others tell those people to lose weight? Because you are a nosy prick who thinks you know what's best for someone, and feel that because 'your intentions were good' that it is okay to tell them someone that THEY need to change themselves BECAUSE YOU DON'T AGREE WITH HOW THEY LOOK, ALTHOUGH IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
The difference between smokers and fat people: smokers can harm people around them as well as themselves; fat people only harm themselves (if they are even unhealthy at all, which YOU DON'T KNOW).
(To be clear, I have nothing against considerate smokers; it's the inconsiderate ones I cannot stand. The ones who smoke in non-designated smoking areas, who throw cigarette butts everywhere and accidentally stub people with smoldering cigarette ends in clubs. If you have the right to smoke, then I have the right to breathe clean air too, and that is why considerate smokers smoke OUTDOORS or in designated smoking areas. But I digress.)
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"What I believe is, there's no such thing as to "born fat and not able to lose weight". NO! The truth is as long as you are not dead and however low your metabolism might be, YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT.
And I hate it when they just won't admit that they are simply eating too much and their lifestyles are way too sedentary.
Yes, she has a good personality,I don't doubt that, but guess what? A good personality will not bring you good health."
Again, I hate it when people get presumptuous about MY health and pretend to care when IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. Every time someone says that I'm so skinny that I can't be healthy, I feel like punching them in the face. For the record, I am considered healthy and rarely ever fall sick. The only problem with me is my relatively high cholesterol, which ironically, is generally attributed to fat people. -__-
The point is, you simply cannot tell a person's state of health by their appearance alone, and to presume things about people is pure arrogance. To tell them that THEY should change because YOU don't THINK they're healthy? Well, if that doesn't stink of arrogance and lack of empathy, then you should probably take a moment to step back and think about it.
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Anyway, I just got really irritated at these self-righteous people saying 'oh fat people are just making up excuses for their obesity'. Excuses? For what? Exactly what crime are they committing that they need to make up 'excuses' for themselves?
If they are indeed obese and unhealthy due to overeating and an unhealthy diet and lying to themselves about it, how does this affect you? If they AREN'T obese and unhealthy due to their own inability to maintain a healthy diet, again, WHAT DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH YOU? Are you so affected by their supposedly feigned ignorance/acceptance of their weight, that you would feel better if they were unhappy about it instead?
Why do people get so offended when people have different ideals about body weight and appearance? If a fat person is happy being fat, then good for the person! If I like being skinny, then let me BE skinny.
Interestingly enough, most people who condemn the obese for being unhealthy are the same people who tell me to eat more candy and fatty food so I can 'look better'. Hypocrites? Indeed. These 'concerned' people don't give two shits about your health. They just want you to look the way they think is most acceptable; if you don't, then they feel it's their sole responsibility to make sure you understand that your appearance is NOT acceptable.
Last week, I went for a full body massage with my mom. The masseuse kept harping on and on about how skinny I was, and how I should eat more while clucking her tongue like a concerned mother hen. Between these comments about my weight, she made sure to exclaim how much she wanted to be skinny like me and that my body was 'beautifully skinny.'
So what is it you want? Am I attractive or am I not? You like my skinniness but at the same time you want me to eat more to rectify my skinniness. Do you just want me to eat more and look more like you so you can feel better about yourself? The funniest part was that SHE WAS SKINNY TOO. Why she was feeling envious, I do not know.
Have we become so used to conforming to society's expectations that we HAVE to feel bad about perceived imperfections?
Well, if you want to be unhappy about your appearance, then by all means, go ahead. But DON'T try to bully others to buy into YOUR ideals about how we should look.
If not, you'll be as much of as an asshole as those people who made the above comments.
Promote acceptance; don't be an asshole.
Body-shaming is NOT okay.
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